While I was at a restaurant I stared. There was one group in particular that noticed me. There were two young children and two young women. I was staring at the little girl. I felt creepy and nervous that someone would get angry. The mother of the two children kept looking back at me and I could tell that I was making her nervous as well. It didn’t last long because I felt creepy. Then I just casually said that I liked how she dressed her children and that I especially liked her daughter’s dress. Then we had a really nice conversation, actually. I didn’t even have to tell her that I was doing an experiment.
The nonverbal behaviors that were involved in my experiment were the eye behavior, facial expression and appearance. I chose this group of people in the first place because of appearance. It was actually an unconscious choice. They were all dressed nicely and were very pretty people. I found Strom’s statements about this very interesting. He said “the beauty bias extends to how we treat and talk with attractive and unattractive people….we are more likely to self-disclose to, reward, help, pay attention to, give in to, and date attractive people” (2009, p.73).
I used eye location and duration against the norm. When the mother seemed to be getting worried, I used specific facial expressions (and words) to calm her by complimenting her and her children.
Strom, B. (2009). More than talk: Communication studies and the Christian faith (3rd ed.). Dubuque, IA: Kendall/Hunt Publishing.